From one nest to another
For many Skyhawks, this is their first time living away from home—away from their friends and family. It marks a big transition in many people’s lives. The staff at the Counseling Center are here to support your student, as are Student Wellness, Student Affairs, and other programs on campus.
Feel free to call our office with concerns. Please know we will not be able to confirm nor deny the student’s use of the Counseling Center, and it is rare for us to reach out to students unsolicited by them, however we will certainly work with you to determine what is best for both you and your student.
While care packages are indeed awesome, a major source of support for students as they make the transition to college life comes in the form of conversations. If you haven’t already, try talking with your student about the following topics. If you have already, well, it’s OK to revisit the conversation.
Resist the urge to rescue. Problems are inevitable. Some roommates are difficult, professors can be challenging, homesickness or loneliness can be painful. But as your student works through difficulties, they grow in confidence. You can help most by being a resource, reminding your student of resources on campus to help with problems and encouraging them to consider their options and how they can work through challenges.
Be a cheerleader! Because college life does bring its share of problems and challenges, your student needs to know somebody thinks they are the best. Celebrate your student’s accomplishments and remind them often of how proud you are of them.
Talk about phone calling. Be sure your student knows the details (limits and costs) of their cell plan. Let your student know when you are not available by phone, email, text message. Encourage them to spend in-person time with their new FLC friends, and use the phone for their back-home friends.
Sometime in the next year you may get a 2:00 a.m. phone call in which your student is crying and saying how much this place sucks. They want you to get in the car and come immediately to take them home.
You’ve likely seen before this at home: big feelings come, and then they pass. The difference at home is that you also see them feeling okay and normal the next day. When your student is away, you may only hear them while they’re upset. Chances are you do not need to get in the car and come get them. Use the judgment you've developed over the years to listen, offer reassurance, and let them know you care.
While sharing the events and happenings of family life will keep your student connected to their family, and remind them that they belong, drawing them over and over into family problems tends to be a drain on their ability to succeed as a student. This is a tricky balance to hold. Consider the impact of what you’re telling them, and look for a balance between hiding things from them, and burdening them.
It really is a joy to receive a package in the mail. It’s even a source of prestige between students to receive care packages from home. These might include your student’s favorite cookies (store-bought or homemade, whatever), food, family pictures, newspaper articles, magazines, rolls of quarters for laundry, toiletries… listen for what they might need, and even ask them what they might want.
Our Family Program works to keep you engaged with a newsletter and Facebook group as well as events when possible.
The Jed Foundation works nationally to reduce the prevalence of emotional distress and suicide among college and university students.
National membership association serving current and future college parents, including advocacy, discounts and informational resources.
You have a right to pursue resolution of the problems you encounter in your dealings with FLC faculty, staff or administrators. Let us know how we can resolve your concerns.
Let Student Engagement know if you are concerned that an FLC student or employee may be a victim of an assault, harassment or discrimination. You may choose to report anonymously.
Report student behavior that you would like to bring to the attention of your department chair or your supervisor. For emergencies please call 911.