Starting up in a new place can be overwhelming—you need to figure out how to do literally everything all over again. Considering that even fun changes can make us nervous, starting at a new college in a new town can be downright scary.
It’s not uncommon for students to feel lonely, to long for home, or to miss their old friends and familiar cooking. Or to become preoccupied with thoughts about what’s going on back home. Some days are fun, full of excitement. Other days get dark with longing. Like getting on a rollercoaster, there are a few things you can do to keep yourself safe.
To minimize the chaos, and maximize your ability to weather the storm, be sure you:
It’s okay to feel sad and miss the people and places of home. It’s also okay to enjoy and have fun in your new place, even if friends and loved ones aren’t there to enjoy it with you. The goal is to make room for both. Here are a few pro-tips to get you started:
It’s very common to feel nervous about making new friends. Sometimes it seems like everyone else has it all figured out—they seem cool, and confident, and surrounded by friends. The reality is, most folks are just as nervous as you are.
And remember, you can make mistakes and it doesn’t mean failure. If you can laugh at them, or even just shrug them off, you’ll be able to learn and adapt, and in time, you’ll notice your stress dissolve, and a new sense of confidence emerge.
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